Yesterday my son Teo broke his arm falling from our neighbor's monkey bars. He's only four; he didn't know life could hurt so bad. It was a nightmare taking him to the ER; Greg drove, and I sat in the back seat balancing Teo's little, crooked arm too precariously on a pillow, which was balanced (a gruesome choice made in my frenzy) on a cutting board.
After the morphine set in and Teo went under, we started our five hour wait until his bones could be set. He'd eaten a peach (this seemed like a decent, healthful choice at the time) just before falling and that blasted, organic fruit had to go through his system before he could receive anesthesia--the hard stuff, the stuff that would make him vomit and hallucinate when he came to, though (mercifully, I guess) we didn't know this at the time.
So what did we do for five hours in that cramped ER room, while various other emergencies rolled by outside? Well, we:
1. Ate hospital cafeteria food: limp Ceasar salads and bottled water.
2. Talked obsessively about Teo's birthday--soon he'll be five and we were thinking of purchasing some kind of basketball hoop, but wouldn't that be ironic and a torture, so what to do now? And what about that dinosaur pinata? I mean, his friends will be able to clobber the thing and grab some candy, but will he? (At least we know what to draw for his card: a T-Rex in a race car wearing a superman cape and throwing a football. This has been Teo's vision for weeks now, and thankfully can still be respected.)
3. Made lists of things to do.
4. Made phone calls to people's answering machines and checked up on our daughter, who was safely with friends, not falling anywhere.
5. Thought. Specifically, I thought about my novel DREAM JOURNAL, due out in, um, five days. In the last weeks I've been travelling hither and yon, frequently with Teo in tow, talking with the kind folks who work in bookstores about letting me sign stock, do readings, help them shelve the books, do cartwheels in the aisles . . . you name it. I've been working with some good friends in Portland, too, scheduling a few readings out that way. I always seem to be trying to do something, learning what's next as I go. It feels like I'm free falling toward this book's release sometimes--time flashing by like air, and all my emotions changing from one split-second to the next: boy, this is fun, what a rush, it's like flying! no, wait, I'm scared to death, I'm not a bird, after all . . . I'm more like a dinosaur in a cape, driving a car, throwing football and nothing makes sense at all! What's it gonna feel like when I land?
Not like two broken bones in my right forearm, I hope. Not near as bad as that.
Teo woke up then and freed me from my solipsistic little tailspin, bless his heart. Loopy on morphine, he wanted to play I Spy. We played I Spy for nearly an hour and a half in a sterile room the size of large walk-in closet. There really wasn't that much to spy. But somehow we were laughing and seeing it like it was: us, playing a game like it was just any other Saturday night. Making the best of things in spite of the free fall.